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[01 Nov 2012|10:17pm]
No friends.  No family that cares.  Just lost.  Just alone.  Just me.  Screw it all.  I can't even manage to work this site.  Just stupid, as usual.  Hope I wake for work tomorrow....I think...maybe I dont care....wonder where this even posts to..?  Probalby blackness...me..

[01 Nov 2012|10:10pm]
Please help...I don't know how this site works...can anyone even see me..am I invisible.  Probably, usually, always.  Just blood.  Is anyone there?  I need someone to hold onto.  Please help me...

My girlfriend cuts.. [03 Jan 2011|04:23pm]

Let me give you some background information before I ask this question. I am 20 and my girlfriend of just a week is a cutter(we are gay). She is 18 and has been cutting since she was 11. She has gotten help for it but she recently relapsed. I don't have any experience with this so I am looking for some advice. I'd like to be prepared for anything. She relapsed a few days before we started dating and has had some urges and like some advice on what to do when she has those urges because she tells me when she does. Also, if she cuts again, what can I do? Just be there for her?

Anything will help. Thanks :)

distraction tips [15 Nov 2010|09:43pm]
When you are triggered the best thing to try and do is ground yourself by doing activities such as the ones on this list:

1. breathe slowly and deeply. In for 5 seconds. Hold for 5 seconds. Out for 5 seconds. and keep repeating it over and over.

2. Use your 5 senses. Smell 5 things where you are now. Taste 5 things. Hear 5 things. See 5 things. Touch 5 things. BUT if one of the senses is what triggered you don't use that sense, skip over it and use another one twice.

3. Call someone you trust, like a friend or your T

4. Write in a journal

5. Draw

6. Change your scenery. If you are outside go inside and visa versa.

7. Write poetry or a story

8. Read a book

9. Play video games

10. Write a letter to someone who hurt you. Then crumple it up and throw it away. Put all the thoughts down on paper as if you would show the person but tear it up and never show them. That is a way for you to get it out.

11. Go for a walk or jog. Be mindful, look at your surroundings and feel the sun, rain, snow, hot, cold.

12. Hold ice in your hand. The cold will snap you back to the present and wont leave any marks

13. Snap a rubber band against your wrist. Once again it will bring you back to the present.

14. Repeat phrases such as "I am safe now" "It's over" "It's just a memory"

15. If you have a pet like a dog or cat pet them, brush them, hug them. Pets hold unconditional love for their owners and are amazing at making people feel better.

Add your own to this list...

http://selfhelp.yuku.com is a support site you can all use, it has forums on cutting among a lot of other forums. you arent alone

Volunteers Needed for a Research Study on Self Injury [25 Jul 2010|12:22pm]

Dear LJ Community,
The recruitment for our self injury study is now complete.
Thank you for your support of our research. Please feel free to email me with any questions you may have.
~Tatyana Kholodkov
Graduate Student
Old Dominion University 



Готов поделиться с вами. [21 Jun 2010|07:40pm]

Всегда отличать их от настоящих всегда следует по тем же имеющим много добрым знакам: чем относительно недороже продукт и довольно некрасивее проиллюстрировавшая аэрозольная упаковка (как правило, вырвавшая совершенно прозрачная пластмасса), чем полусамодельнее этикетки, сморщенные и залитые тем же тосолом, без адреса и стоящего телефона управляющих производителей, тем настороженнее давно следует к такому тосолу серьезно относиться, а лучше всего отнюдь не сразу брать его вообще.
Дракон гороскоп

Знаки зодиака воды

Лучший гороскоп

Гороскоп козерог здоровье

Описание совместимости имен

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Тропик козерога

Мужчина скорпион собака

Знак гороскопа телец

Насосы для скважин водолей

Стрелец знак зодиака характеристика

Телец и дева

Тибетский гороскоп

Год кабана совместимость

Совместимость имен дима и аня

Астрологический прогноз по знакам зодиака

Совместимость знаков зодиака друг другу

Значение имени андре

Обезьяна козерог

Совместимость имен онлайн

Характеристика овна женщины

Василиса володина гороскоп совместимости

Знак зодиака близнецы планета

Водолей и лев гороскоп

Водолей символ

Как завоевать девушку стрельца

Гороскоп совместимости нумерология

Гороскоп совместимости близнецы и дева

Совместимость мужчина близнецы женщина козерог

Водолей третьей декады

Как удержать мужчину деву

Совместимость знаков зодиака лев стрелец

Женщина лев характеристика

Совместимы ли водолей и овен

Змея дева мужчина

Гороскоп совместимости знаков зодиака лев


[09 Mar 2008|03:21pm]

Weh, haileykatherinesaid it so cool before me that I decided to join. I think cutting and the self-pitying parts of all these depressive stuff are simply a very very wrong view at life. 
A Hungarian writer says: "Be careful, for you make the world be the way you see it."
Otherwise, I do no want to bash cutters; I will not slap and shake and shout at anyone because they cut themselves; except maybe my friends if they start it one day, which is not very likely. But it seems that soon I will be held a fool just because I don't cut myself and because my icon is colorful. This is what I don't agree with. 

[09 May 2006|08:04pm]

I saw this community while I was searching for Gravitation communities...hm...strange. Anyway...I'm not meaning this in a bad way, but some of the people on here need to get their facts right. People don't cut for attention, okay? Alright, I admit that some people do...I've had friends that have done it, but a serious cutter doesn't do it for attention. They do it because they need help... And you'd be surprised how many people are around you that do cut and you don't even know it. Some of your friends could be doing it and you just shove it aside because they say that they got scratched by their cat. Even if they wear shorts or short sleeves, that doesn't mean anything. There's still plenty of skin hiding beneath their demin shorts and cotton T-shirts. It just makes me sick when people say things like that... And people don't walk around and "show off" their cuts and scars. I'm still ashamed of my scars. They're not pretty, so why show them off? It doesn't make any sense. Where do you people get your information from?...

Yes...I was (am/will always be) a cutter myself for two years, but that's not revelant to the point that I'm trying to make. Open your minds, if just a little bit. I agree that cutting is bad and is quite possibly the worst way to take any kind of emotion out, but not everyone can voice their pains or write them down on paper. Some aren't that lucky and use cutting to take it out. Sick? Yes. Masochistic? Yes, very. But it's all they have... And cutting has NOTHING to do with suicide. Nothing at all...

And I read one post that made me laugh. "Why do all cutters seem to be bisexual?" What the hell?...not all cutters are bisexual. I'm not bisexual and I was a cutter. I have several friends who were cutters and they aren't bisexual. I just think that was funny. Where the hell did it come from anyway? It was kinda a random question to ask...

But while I disagree with cutting after seeing the side-effects and having it ruin my life, I still write about it. Angst and horror are my genres and cutting is something that falls into angst...it falls into angst a lot. The only book out there that really dwells on the truths about cutting is the book Cut by Patricia McCormick. Read it. It'll help you understand, or it won't and it will just make you think that cutters are crazy when they're not. And when I write about cutting I don't do the whole "Oh, my world is crashing down around me just because my boyfriend broke up with me so I think I'm gonna take a razor to my skin." No...that's not right. I tell the truth when I write, not some buttered-up, sweet thing that will be all better once they get back together with their boyfriend. No...that's not possible...

I know that this will probably, most likely, definitely piss some people off who are on here, but I really don't care. I'm sick of people calling me crazy because they see the barely there scars on my arms and I'm sick of everyone treating me like shit because of my past mistakes. Bitch me out if you must but it really won't hurt my feelings any. If anything it will just make me angry and then I'll bitch some more...
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two things... [07 Apr 2006|12:20am]

First of all, it's amazing the things that have become trends since I was in high school. As a psychology major, it's been noted that the trend of cutting has only come about in the last 15-20 years and is strange in it's need for popularity. When I was in high school (about 4 years ago) there were kids who cut but never ever showed it off or bragged about it. It was treated as a serious illness and a sign of depression, but now it seems that the lines are blurred because of the numerous kids who do it as part of this ridiculous "Goth" or "emo" trend so those who actually do it in private and do have a real problem aren't taken seriously.

Second of all, I know it's typical for this age group, but there's a huge lack of compassion and tremendous amount of angst in this community that's disturbing. Alright, fine, you don't like people who cut, but why not just ignore them instead of bitching about how stupid they are or how their lives are pathetic? Everyone experiences pain in their own way and just because someone has a problem that you don't or don't even believe in doesn't make them stupid or worthy of hatred.

I say this from personal experience. I was never a cutter, but my sophomore year in college, the chronic depression I've had since I was in 7th grade took a turn for the worse and I found myself in the hospital after a severe suicide attempt that I was lucky enough to survive. I have since spent the last 3 years in recovery and while I'm doing much better, depression is something that will always be in my system, much like diabetes with diabetics. If I treat it correctly I'll have bad days here and there, but will be able to function like a normal person and live a happy, functional life.

I'm not saying any of this for pity or sympathy or attention (it's the Internet, for Christ's sake...) but I hope to at least make the point that everyone has their own struggles and just because you don't understand why people would do something like cutting, it doesn't make you a better person for hating them.
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[05 Mar 2006|11:12am]

[ mood | hungry ]

Hi everyone i'm new.

I'm so glad there's a community like this. I agree that most people cut them selves for attention, and to be "trendy". I find that those type of people are just pathetic. I have A LOT of kids at my school that cut them selves for the stupidest reasons. One guy i know cut his arm because his parents pissed him off. (the usual scenario) Another thing that bugs me is all the icons that have bloody wrists.
I've never cut myself, and i never will. I find better ways to deal with things.

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We need members.Please,Join. [29 Jan 2006|05:33pm]

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[15 Jan 2006|05:27pm]

God I am SO glad there is a group for this! It's not just the trendy-cutting that bother me, I can't stand the sudden army of whiners that have arrived and flooded the Western world.

When I was at college I got sick of all the angst and attention seeking. EVEN THOUGH the I knew for a fact that biggest whiney-cutter-attention seeker of them all actually had a pretty comfortable life. His mother made him three trays worth of cookies and cakes during his exam period! I had some myself - and they were good. Jesus Christ man, you're considering suicide for what? Were you upset that she only let you have TWO before you left for college?

On the other hand, I have seen people who really ought to have more attention. Once I met someone who I am sure has had something terrible happen to her - one of the worst things I can imagine - although I can't tell for sure because she certainly doesn't broadcast it. If I'm right, that person is probably one of the bravest people I know. She doesn't cut, even though she's had a genuinely hard life.

I really respect that girl, and Mr.Angsty-Pervert-Cutter makes me sick.

Let me introduce myself. [21 Dec 2005|03:48pm]

Hi y'all, thought I'd join your community after browsing around LJ and thought this was an awesome idea. I've cut before, but only really when in a bit of a hysterical (and drunken) state. I've always regretted it afterwards, but I'm fairly open about it. I used to be friends with someone who once cut himself WHILE writing about it on LJ. Then he had the nerve to taunt me about my own self-harm. Well, it's not something to laud or equally to deride, and I'm glad this community exists. Strength to all of you.
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[29 Nov 2005|07:15pm]

hall0, another newbie here n___n

It's pathetic how people cut for attention.
[ insert all the usual comments here >P ]
And yay. Glad there's a community for this stuff<3
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[22 Nov 2005|06:31pm]
Hi Im cole.
Im relatively new.

It makes me smile to know that there are people out there who hate the little angst scene kids as much as I do. If I could take a butcher knife and hack one of their arms off, I so would. Fucking sad teenies and their safetypins of sadness.

I declare we start bombing the shit out of public schools and blame God for making the children so sad. dfjahdjfhas.
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Hey [20 Nov 2005|12:01pm]

Hey everyone, I'm new to the community.

I definately despise people who show off that they cut theirselves.

I love people with high self esteem. I mean, I didn't always have the esteem that I have today, but I thank all of my friends to give me such confidence. I have this friend that's in my gym class who doesn't have so much self esteem. She's very pretty in my opinion, but, what can I do about it, ya know? Anyway, she came into the locker room one day and showed me her arm with a bunch of scratches on it. I pretended to sympathise for her, but I really felt aggravated that she'd have the nerve to just show me like that.

Another friend of mine always tells me when, how, and why she cuts herself. They're really stupid reasons because it's always about the same guy. Everytime.

I don't like to talk about it, but yeah, I used to do it too. I'd always where long sleeves and cuffs though. I have Depression, but now I'm on medicine. Before, I'd get so angry with myself and just start going crazy. I'm really disappointed in myself that I used to cut, and now I know that I had absolutely no reason to. It's pointless and disgusting.
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[25 Sep 2005|03:07pm]

so..my friend is a complete idiot. Actually, I don't think we're friends annymore... I came to school one day and there she was, showing everybody those little scraches on her arm, saying that she had an 'accident'. And then she sees me and she stickes her arm in my face saying "look jenny!" I mean WTF!?!?! I told her that shit isnt funny, it's dangerous and moronic and she needs to stop or I can't hang around her anymore. She says that she thinks it's funny, and that if I had a problem with it, then I should leave. what the hell? I nearly slapped her silly....she knows what I went thrugh last year and she knows how long I had to take tharapy and medication to get out of that mess(and I am out of it ^_^ im done with it and I am not looking back)!! But she has the nerve to come up to me and ask me for something to kill herself with!? I cant belive I was friends with her..
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[17 Sep 2005|10:23am]


There are points made in this column that even cutters cannot deny:

Actresses Angelina Jolie and Christina Ricci did it. So did Courtney Love and the late Princess Diana. On the Internet, there are scores of websites (with titles such as "Blood Red," "Razor Blade Kisses" and "The Cutting World") featuring "famous self-injurers," photos of teenagers' self-inflicted wounds and descriptions of their techniques. The destructive practice has been depicted in films targeting young girls and teens (such as "Thirteen"). There is even a new genre of music -- "emo" -- associated with promoting the cutting culture.

This madness would not be as popular as it is among young people if not for the glamorizing endorsement of nitwit celebrities such as twentysomething actress Christina Ricci

How can people continue to say that none of that is for attention or because of a trend? What I do not agree with is the fact that this article blames hollywood. I realize that is a big source of the problem, but these teenagers need to learn to think for themselves. Maybe this is just another version of survival of the fittest? I am more-than-beginning to think so.

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[24 Aug 2005|12:32pm]

OK guys, I know I've posted this a couple of times here over the past year, but sometime this summer I accidentally deleted the original entry, making the bar obsolete. Anyway: it's back! Sorry if it's getting annoying; this is the last go.

© show your revulsion ©
Self-Injury: No One Gives a Shit. Seriously. Some of us are sick of the plague of histrionic, privileged white girls who think they actually have difficult lives.

Sorry, I reserve my sympathy for people who don't purposely perpetuate their own problems. You are not freaks. But we know you wish you were so someone would give you some attention.
Monday, March 1, 2004 is a fake "Awareness Day" invented so that cutters can put up stupid solidarity ribbons and attempt to garner some pity.
December 1 is World Aids Day: go learn about someone with real problems.

X-Posted to banned_colorbar and anticutting.
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Are you sure? [09 Aug 2005|08:52pm]
[ mood | curious ]

I've been reading a lot of the posts in this community.

I don't understand.

Maybe it's because I never went to a high school where this was trendy or maybe it's because I never even knew another 'cutter'. Yep, I used to do it but who cares about that story. I was an idiot and now I have scars for the rest of my life but, I did something that is supposed to be odd. When I was in college I was still cutting myself, now i know it's a stupid way to behave but back then I seriously thought there was nothing wrong with it. I knew most people didn't do it but I couldn't tell the difference between my slicing my arms and legs up and someone eh, even lighting up a cigarette, driving too fast or drinking. I thought I had no reason to be ashamed since most people don't find shame in a lot of idiot things they do so I stopped hiding it. I stopped caring what people thought of me.

Now, I know that wasn't for attention because I never got any attention for it. I was 18, away from home, I had no college friends and no one attending my lectures was going to say anything. I was just sick of caring what people thought. I was so sick of caring what people thought that I was going to wear a t-shirt if I felt like it and stop hiding. Wait, there was this one guy who asked me if it was real but I didn't understand why he asked his question, as if someone would make up their arm like that with hollywood make up and laughed at him.

Well, back then I didn't realise people do this to be 'cool' and maybe it is just a high school thing when it becomes an attention act because after the age of 18 no one can do anything. I started seeing a psycho doctor a few years later. He couldn't commit me for it and when I abruptly quit 'treatment' neither him nor my therapist who I quit seeing as well could do anything when a known 'cutter' was on the loose.

So, are you really sure that every single 'real cutter' is going to do everything in their power to hide it?

I chose to stop being ashamed of it and eventually chose to stop doing it but never am I wearing a t-shirt to make people feel sorry for me. I just can't be bothered to let someone make me feel ashamed for something I was doing.

I'm really having trouble believing that people do this for an image but, the idiot trends don't suprise me much anymore. I never thought that the depth or the amount of cuts mattered though. For the first year I did it, I never even thought of using anything other than a thumb tack. It wasn't until later I found out that exacto knives might just be what I was looking for. I wish I hadn't well no shit eh. But, how the hell can anyone tell the difference between a 'real cutter' and someone who's doing it to be 'cool'. Fuck, if I could have told someone right away when I started I would have and probably would have. Hell, I know when I first did it I was confused and needed the attention I would have got had I acted like these kids you guys make fun of. I don't get it. Perhaps I'm too out of touch with today.

Cutting sucks.

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